10 reasons why we should marry

1) To please Almighty Allah

Allah has blessed us with a religion which is at equilibrium; between the two poles of extreme and excess. Some cultures and religions are on the far right of the spectrum, thus demoting marriage and promoting celibacy or bachelorism. Other cultures, spiritual disciplines and societies are silent on this issue, permitting their constituents to exceed all bounds and limits in fulfilling their desires. However, the approach of Islam to marriage is very moderate. Islam recognises the human need for marriage. Islam advocates its followers to marry, yet fences the boundaries by explicitly stating the permissible and impermissible.

So by marrying, we will be displaying our gratitude to Allah, in essence, we will please Allah the Almighty.

 

2) A practice of the Prophets

All the Prophets of Allah married except two, do you know who?

The Prophet (Allah bless him & give him peace) said,

“The Prophets observed four: modesty, perfume, miswaak (tooth stick) and marriage.”(Tirmidhi)

 

3) A source of chastity

Marriage endorses chastity and shields a person from fornication and evil.  When a person is guarded by the bullet proof vest of marriage, then it is very unlikely that he will be wounded by the snares of shaytaan.

 

The Prophet (Allah bless him & give him peace) said,

“O youth, whosoever amongst you has the means to get married then let him wed, as it the best of ways to lower the gaze and safeguard one’s chastity. Whosoever lacks the means to wed, then let him fast, as this will be his shield.”(Sahih al-Bukhari)

 

Marriage consummates one’s faith, spares one from looking at other women, enables one to preserve his chastity and offers one a lawful means to satisfy his sexual desire. Adultery is therefore no longer an option.

 

4) Fulfilling the wish of the Prophet (Allah bless him & give him peace)

The messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said,

“Marry the one who is fertile and affectionate, for verily I will be proud of your great numbers before (other) nations on the Day of Judgment.”(Abu Dawud)

 

The Prophet (Allah bless him & give him peace) desired that we wed in order to increase the number of his followers. This will be a means of dignity and honour for him.

 

5) Marriage is a source of peace and contentment

Allah the Exalted has infused in a man’s heart a longing for a woman, and in a woman’s heart a longing for a man. Each of them is driven by a far more exigent need than hunger or thirst. Each of them senses a void in his or her life that can only be filled with blessed union of marriage. Only then does stability replace instability, reassurance supercedes anxiety. Each of them finds in the other serenity, love and mercy which enlightens their lives and enriches their souls. The following is one of Allah’s glaring signs in our universe, which the Glorious Qur’an points to:

Allah Ta’ala says:

“From amongst His signs is that He has created spouses for you from yourselves (from your own species) so that you may find solace with her and He has placed love and mercy between you. Surely in this there are signs for those who contemplate.” (Surah ar-rum 21)

 

Allah the almighty states that he has paired us with a spouse as they are a means of serenity and harmony.

 

6) Marriage is a channel to recognise Allah

In the verse cited above, Allah has described marriage to be a ‘sign’. Through the union of a husband and wife, one can traverse the path of piety and attain the ultimate objective of life; the recognition of Allah.

 

7) Procreation

Another reason to marry is to have children. Nurturing children and shaping them into pious individuals is a great treasure, which will assist the parents in the hereafter.

The messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said,

“When a person dies, the benefit of his/her deeds ends, except three: a continuous charity, knowledge from which benefit is derived, or a pious child praying to God for him/her.”(Muslim)

 

Reproduction is the natural outcome of marriage. It serves to prolong man’s existence. This is thus one of Allah’s bounties which He grants man saying,

“And Allah has made for you wives of your own kind, and has made for you, from your wives, sons and grandsons, and has bestowed on you good provision. Do they then believe in false deities and deny the Favour of Allah (by not worshipping Allah Alone).” (An-Nahl 72)

 

8 ) A natural desire

According to the divine laws and norms, nothing can ever perform its duty single-handedly. Allah designed everything to be codependent. In the field of electricity, positive and negative poles need to be in contact  to induce an electric current, which in turn, yields light, heat, motion, etc. Likewise, electrons and protons should be in contact inside an atom. In plants, pollen grain carrying male gametes fertilize a flower’s stigma to produce more plants. Male and female animals have to be in contact in order to reproduce. The Glorious Qur’an highlights this universal law in the following two verses:

“And all things We have created by pairs, so that you may take heed” (Adh-Dhariyat 49)

“Glory be to He Who created all the sexual pairs, of that which the earth produces, and of themselves, and of that which they know not.” (Ya-Sin 36)

 

9) The seed of worldly happiness

Not only does marriage help a Muslim preserve his faith, it is also the indispensable pillar of worldly happiness.  Marriage opens the doors to solace and comfort instantaneously.  Imam Muslim reports that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said,

“The whole world is of temporary use and benefit, and the best asset of the world is a righteous woman.”(Muslim)

 

The Prophet (Allah bless him & give him peace) is also reported to have said:

“Four things bring one joy: a righteous wife, a spacious house, a pious neighbor and a comfortable riding animal.” ( Al-Hakim, Abu-Nu`aym and Al-Bayhaqi)

 

10) Marriage is the building block of the society

Marriage is the sole means of establishing a family: the nucleus of society.  Societies would cease to exist if families failed to emerge. Feelings of love, altruism, mercy, care and cooperation are instilled in a Muslim by virtue of having a family.

 

Social relations are bolstered with the aid of marriage.  The effect being feelings of amity, love and social closeness extend to include more and more people.

 

Allah the Exalted says,

And it is He Who has created man from water, and has appointed for him kindred by blood, and kindred by marriage. And your Lord is Ever All-Powerful to do what He will.” (Al-Furqan: 54)

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