Identify your marital problems part 1

On Saturday –May 19, 2012, Hadhrat Mufti Ebrahim Desai Sahib Daamat Barakatuhum commenced a special series of discourses on marital problems & solutions at Rockdale Muaadh Ibn Jabal Jamaat Khana,Westville-Durban.

Alhamdulillah,the gathering was very well attended and the women appreciated every bit of the advices.

Hadhrat stated that he has 18 years of experience with marriage related issues and he felt the information he has is a trust and he had to share the experiences so that:

  1. Broken marriages can be made up.
  2. Stabilize troubled marriages.
  3. Bring prosperity in happy marriages.
  4. Serve as an eye opener for the unmarried.

Hadhrat commenced his talk by expounding on the power of the union between the husband and wife. Billions of human beings are the consequence of just one couple,Adam and Hawa (Alayhima as-Salaam).

You too are special and could be a mother of a nation. Dont look at yourself as just one person. You are a foundation of a future unknown nation.

Mufti Sahib further stated that a troubled marriage comes with grief, depression and even leads one to question the decree of Allah (azza wajal).

He expounded on some examples of marital disputes referred to in the Quran and Hadith. Rasulullah Sallallāhu Alayhi Wasallam and the sahabah were human beings. They lived family lives and also experienced challenges in their family lives. We study their challenges and seek solutions from their experiences.

The purpose of marriage is Sukoon(peace).The two arms of which are-Love and compassion.

Mufti Sahib further explained that a Human being is a composition of opposites.

  • The right eye and left eye.
  • The right ear and left ear.
  • The head on top and the feet at the bottom.

But there is a unique co-operation between these opposites. When the right eye is sore, the left eye takes the strain. When the foot is sore, the head feels the discomfort.

Similarly,how can there be cooperation between two opposites-Male(Husband) and Female(Wife) who hail from different families and diverse backgrounds?

Every two things put together need an agent.

Two bricks need cement.

Two papers need glue.

What can cement and glue the husband and wife? All these issues are covered in the talk.

Listen to the talk here-


Marital Discourses May 19 2012 Part 1

The follow up talk will be on: Saturday 26 may 2012

The issues for discussion the following week are: Identifying the actual problems in the marriage and the solutions.

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2 comments on “Identify your marital problems part 1

    • Wa alaykum Salaam,

      Insha’Allah we will try and identify a way for you to download this lecture.

      Jazakallahu khairan

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