The Romantic Prophet – How to be romantic with your spouse

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As the days come to closer to one’s marriage, excitement, ecstasy and elation pump through the bride and groom.  The build up to marriage is an experience of thrill and jubilation.  When the marriage is solemnised, one’s happiness and delight is on the verge of brimming and tipping over.  When the newlywed couple meet for the first time, words cannot describe the sweetness, bliss, serenity, pleasure and elation tasted by the two.

If every day of the marriage mirrors the first day of marriage, and every night reflects the first night of marriage, then marriage is a euphoric experience on this world.

The first couple of months are always a ‘honeymoon’.  Once the couple settle down, then reality begins.  Many couples fail at this point.  The husband gets engrossed in his job.  He comes home tired and late, feeling hungry and tired.  He demands for the food and feels lazy to do anything.  He eats, puts the dirty plates in the sink and lies down on the sofa.  He might awaken to perform salāh if he is conscious of salāh.  Otherwise, he wakes up later on towards the night, phones a few friends, watches TV and keeps ordering the wife to get him x and y.  When it is time to sleep, if the husband is in a good mood he will have relations with his wife-but only to satisfy his needs.  Once he is fulfilled, he stops and drops off to sleep.  Whether the wife is satisfied or not does not even cross his mind.  This becomes the routine of his life.

The wife on the other hand, she initially tries to please her husband.  She slowly loses her enthusiasm as she does not receive enough attention from her husband.  She cooks to please her husband.  She will put effort into her food.  She will try and perfect every detail in the food.  The presentation, ingredients and spices are put meticulously so they complement each other.  After a while she tires from this as the husband does not compliment, instead he criticises her food.  As soon as the husband goes to work, she is on the phone to her associates.  She cooks, watches TV, cleans the house and enjoys her day before her husband comes home.  Once the husband comes, she becomes a slave again.

This style of marriage wherein there is no affection and no real emotion is heading towards destruction.

The husband needs to implement the romance the Prophet salallahu alaihi wasallam.  We consider Romeo to be romantic but not the Prophet salallahu alaihi wasallam.  If I was to say the Prophet salallahu alaihi wasallam was the most romantic individual, I would not be lying.  By looking attentively at the biography of the Prophet salallahu alaihi wasallam, you will find that he was the most romantic person to walk this Earth.

He is the best example for the ideal husband. He was comforting for his wives, wiping their tears, respecting their emotions, hearing their words, caring for their complaints, alleviating their sadness, going in picnics with them, racing with them, bearing their abandonment, discussing matters with them, keeping their dignity, supporting them in emergencies, declaring his love to them and was very happy with such love.

The husband and wife have to bond with one another psychologically, physically and spiritually. Here are some attractive examples and points we need to adopt to achieve a marriage of romance:

1) Know their feelings

The Prophet salallahu alaihi wasallam once said to Sayyidah Aisha radiallahu anha : “I know well when you are pleased or angry with me. Aisha replied: How you know that? He said: When you are pleased with me you swear by saying “By the God of Mohammad” but when you are angry you swear by saying “By the God of Ibrahim”. She said: You are right, I don’t mention your name.”[1]

The husband and wife should be aware of each other’s feelings.  The husband should be able to gauge when his wife is upset or sad, likewise the wife should be able to read her husband’s behaviour.  By being conscious of one another’s feelings, it will help resolve any differences. When your spouse is down or upset, be there to console him/her.  Sit with them, speak with them, listen to them.  Try and make them smile.  If the husband is always conscious of his wife’s feelings, and the wife is always conscious of the husband’s feelings, then this will assist greatly in keeping the ‘flicker’ alight.

2) Console her

Sayyidah Safiyah radiallahu anha was on a journey with the Prophet salallahu alaihi wasallam.  She was late so the Prophet salallahu alaihi wasallam received her while she was crying. The Prophet salallahu alaihi wasallam wiped her tears with his own hands and tried his utmost to calm her down. [2]

This is another feature a marriage must have.  Each spouse has to be there for the other in the good and bad times.  The wife should find comfort and solace in the husband and the husband should find warmth and love in his wife.  Be gentle with one another.

3) Laying in the wife’s lap

The Prophet salallahu alaihi wasallam would recline in the lap of our beloved mother Sayyidah Aisha radaillahu anha even in the state when she would be menstruating.  The Prophet salallahu alaihi wasallam would recite the Qur῾ān whilst reclining in his wife’s lap.[3]

How many times have we rested in the lap of our spouse? These gestures may seem trivial but they are the acts which bring the hearts close.  The wife can sense and see the love of her husband for her in such actions.  Every so often come home and just go and rest in the lap of your wife.  She will appreciate this gesture greatly.

4) Combing the spouse’s hair:

Aisha radiallahu anha would comb the hair of the Prophet salallahu alaihi wasallam and wash his hair.

This is how close a couple has to be.  Love evolves and grows to such an extent that a spouse yearns to do everything for the other spouse even if it simply combing their hair.  To maintain a high intensity of love, do the little things for your spouse also.  Little acts have a huge psychological impact on the mind of the spouse.  Seldom comb their hair, take their clothes out to wear, bring them a cold drink on a hot day, prepare something for them etc.

5) Drinking and eating from one place:

Aisha radiallahu anha would drink from a cup.  The Prophet salallahu alaihi wasallam would take this cup and search for the place where the lips of his beloved wife made contact.  Upon finding the place where his wife drank from the cup, he would put his lips on the very same place so that his lips have touched the place where her lips touched.  He would then drink the contents of the cup at the same time enjoying union with his spouse.  When there was meat to eat, Sayyidah Aisha radiallahu anha would take a bite.  The Prophet salallahu alaihi wasallam would take the meat from her hand and again place his mouth the very same place where his wife ate from.  This would add taste of love to his food.[4]

Do things together with your wife.  Do not just eat at the same time and on the same tablecloth, but eat from the same plate.  Let alone the same plate, eat together from the same article of food.  This will bond the hearts so close to one another.  When everything your wife comes into contact with becomes more beloved to you than food itself, imagine the flame of love in your lives?

6) Kissing:

The Prophet salallahu alaihi wasallam would kiss his wife regularly.  Even when he salallahu alaihi wasallam would be fasting, he would kiss his wife.[5]

Compliment your spouse often with kisses.  When exiting the house, make it habit you leave by coming into contact with your spouse.  When returning home, along with saying salām to her, show that you have missed her dearly.

When she is working or busy in her household chores, surprise her with a kiss.  You have to show your love.  Love is the fuel of marriage; if you desire your marriage to progress, you have to express your love in every way you can.

Physical relations in a marriage are very important.  The famous saying is, “actions speak louder than words.”  Show your spouse you love her.  Sharī῾ah promotes romance and physical relations between the husband and wife.  The Prophet salallahu alaihi wasallam categorically stated,

Conjugal relations with your wife is a sadaqah.”[6]

 

6) Lifting the morsel to her mouth

The Prophet salallahu alaihi wasallam said : If you spend an amount you will be rewarded for it, -even when you lift the morsel to your wife’s mouth.” [7]

The husband and wife should make these gentle gestures to exhibit their love and appreciation.  Feed your spouse with your own hands now and then.  This will rekindle the flame of love in your marriage.

7) Assisting her in the housework:

The Prophet salallahu alaihi wasallam would clean and help at home.  He would see to his needs himself rather than demanding his wife.  He would clean and see to his clothing himself.

Without being asked, if the couple help each other in day to day activities, it will make one appreciate the other.  Likewise, one should try his best not to demand his/her spouse to do things too much.  Whatever one can do himself, he should do.  We need to be considerate of the spouse.  The wife works tirelessly all day.  So if the husband was to be considerate and realise his wife works hard, this will touch the wife.  Likewise, if the wife was to go out of her way to see to the needs of her husband being considerate, it will induce a great spark of love between the two.

8 ) Telling her stories

 

Discuss stories and events with your spouse.  Engage in light hearted discussions with her-something to laugh and joke over.  The Prophet salallahu alaihi wasallam on many occasions would discuss stories, events and have light hearted discussions.  The famous story narrated by Sayyidah Aisha radiallahu anha regarding Umm Zar’ is evident.

This is one angle which is neglected more so than often.  It is all ‘business’ between the husband and wife.  They do not get into light hearted conversations.  Instead, the husband rings his friends and chuckles with them.  The wife on the other hand giggles during the day with her friends.  This should not be the case. Focus and divert all your amusement and entertainment at your spouse.  If you want to laugh, then let it be that you are laughing with your wife.

Make it a point in your busy schedule daily where you sit with your wife and do nothing but have fun with her.

9) Sharing happy occasions with her:

Once when the Ethiopians were practicing target shooting in the masjid complex, the Prophet salallahu alaihi wasallam stood with his wife watching.  Not only did the Prophet salallahu alaihi wasallam stand with his wife, he put his cloak around her.  The Prophet salallahu alaihi wasallam although he had other jobs to do, he stayed there standing with his wife.  He only went when his wife wanted to go.[8]

A husband should be one who shares happy occasions and experiences with his wife.  When it is raining, cold or sunny, one should shelter his wife.

You should be willing to sacrifice your errands to spend time with your wife.  When the spouse sees sacrifice for her sake, it will create immense love and respect in their heart.

10)Racing with his wife

The Prophet salallahu alaihi wasallam would exercise and play with his wife also.  The famous incident of the Prophet salallahu alaihi wasallam challenging his wife to race is well known.

When a couple can have such good times together, it only ignites the love even more.

11) Calling her by a beautiful name:

The Prophet salallahu alaihi wasallam would call his wife ‘Humairā’’ out of love.  Linguistically it means the little reddish one, but the scholars state that in reality it refers to someone who is so fair that due to the sun they get a reddish tan.  This was the reason why the Prophet salallahu alaihi wasallam called her Humairaa’.[9]

Call your spouse nice sweet names.  One has to show his partner love and affection in every little thing.  One needs to feed love constantly to his spouse to keep the flame burning.

Once the Prophet salallahu alaihi wasallam stared into his wife’s eyes.  He was gazing at the world within his wife’s eyes.  He then said to Sayyidah Aisha radiallahu anha in praise of her beauty,

“How white are your eyes.”[10]

This is what is needed.  The husband and wife should be constantly complementing and praising each other.  The husband has to show his love and attraction to his wife.  The wife needs to show her infatuation for her husband.  When there is a reciprocal relationship, the marriage climbs heights.

12)Dress for your spouse

Sayyiduna Ibn Abbās radiallahu anhu said: “As my wife adorns herself for me, I adorn myself for her. I do not want to take all of my rights from her so that she will not take all of her rights from me because Allah, the Exalted, stated the following: “And women shall have rights similar to the rights against them.” (Qur῾ān 2 :228.)[11]

This is another area where many spouses fail.  The wife only dresses when it is a special occasion.  The husband on the hand stays scruffy and does not take care to be neat and tidy.  If the couple want their everyday to be a special occasion like their wedding day, they must dress to impress!

The wife should wear the clothing which pleases her husband. Likewise, the husband should wear what the wife likes.  Every time the husband and wife glance at each other, the glance should arouse them and stir up more love for their spouse.  This will ignite the love in the heart.

 

 

13)Utilising perfume:

The Prophet salallahu alaihi wasallam would have a container for perfume.  He would use perfume constantly.[12] One should make an effort to smell good for his wife all the time. Looking good, keeping clean, smelling nice compliments a relationship exceptionally.  Make sure you hair is tidy, your clothes are neat and you smell pleasant.  This will attract your spouse always and inject affection into the marriage.

14)Do not talk about her private matters:

The Prophet salallahu alaihi wasallam described the one who discloses his wife’s affairs to others as amongst the worst of people.[13]

Whatever occurs between yourself and your spouse should remain between you two.  How unmanly and shameful is it when a husband discusses his wife to his friends? The secrets and issues of the spouse must not be narrated at all to anyone.  Do not talk about your wife to others.  Your wife is for you.  You are for your wife.  Your fidelity and loyalty should always be to your spouse.

15) Loving & respecting their families

 

Another great factor to contribute to a healthy relationship is to love and cherish the family of your spouse.  The Prophet salallahu alaihi wasallam was once asked whom he loved the most.  He replied, “Aisha.”  When the questioner rephrased his question and asked from amongst the men, he replied, “Her father.”

The Prophet could have easily said Abu Bakr.  His answer displays such intelligence and ingenuity, that in one response he displayed his devotion to his wife and her family.  He exhibited his fondness for his in-laws.  Imagine how happy his wife Sayyidah Aisha would have become upon hearing this response?

Compliment your in laws in front of your wife.  Compliment your wife to her family.  Your wife will really appreciate this.

Never underestimate the importance of seemingly little things as putting food in your wife’s mouth, opening the car’s door for her, etc.

Try to always find some time for both of you to pray together. Strengthening the bond between you and Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala is the best guarantee that your own marital bond would always remain strong. Having peace with Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala will always result in having more peace at home.

 


[1]وفي صحيح البخاري

عَنْ عَائِشَةَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهَا، قَالَتْ: قَالَ لِي رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: «إِنِّي لَأَعْلَمُ إِذَا كُنْتِ عَنِّي رَاضِيَةً، وَإِذَا كُنْتِ عَلَيَّ غَضْبَى» قَالَتْ: فَقُلْتُ: مِنْ أَيْنَ تَعْرِفُ ذَلِكَ؟ فَقَالَ: ” أَمَّا إِذَا كُنْتِ عَنِّي رَاضِيَةً، فَإِنَّكِ تَقُولِينَ: لاَ وَرَبِّ مُحَمَّدٍ، وَإِذَا كُنْتِ عَلَيَّ غَضْبَى، قُلْتِ: لاَ وَرَبِّ إِبْرَاهِيمَ ” قَالَتْ: قُلْتُ: أَجَلْ وَاللَّهِ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ، مَا أَهْجُرُ إِلَّا اسْمَكَ (رقم الحديث 5228)

[2] وفي السنن الكبرى

عَنْ أَنَسِ بْنِ مَالِكٍ قَالَ: كَانَتْ صَفِيَّةُ مَعَ رَسُولِ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فِي سَفَرٍ، وَكَانَ ذَلِكَ يَوْمَهَا فَأَبْطَأْتُ فِي الْمَسِيرِ، فَاسْتَقْبَلَهَا رَسُولُ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ وَهِيَ تَبْكِي وَتَقُولُ: «حَمَلْتَنِي عَلَى بَعِيرٍ بَطِيءٍ، فَجَعَلَ رَسُولُ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَمْسَحُ بِيَدَيْهِ عَيْنَيْهَا وُيُسْكِتُهَا(رقم الحديث 9117)

[3] صحيح البخاري

عَائِشَةَ حَدَّثَتْهَا أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: «كَانَ يَتَّكِئُ فِي حَجْرِي وَأَنَا حَائِضٌ، ثُمَّ يَقْرَأُ القُرْآنَ» (رقم الحديث 297)

[4]وفي سنن النسائي

قَالَ: سَمِعْتُ عَائِشَةَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهَا تَقُولُ: «كَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يُنَاوِلُنِي الْإِنَاءَ فَأَشْرَبُ مِنْهُ وَأَنَا حَائِضٌ، ثُمَّ أُعْطِيهِ فَيَتَحَرَّى مَوْضِعَ فَمِي , فَيَضَعُهُ عَلَى فِيهِ» (رقم الحجيث 281)

[5]وفي صحيح مسلم

عَنْ عَائِشَةَ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهَا: «أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ كَانَ يُقَبِّلُهَا وَهُوَ صَائِمٌ» فَسَكَتَ سَاعَةً، ثُمَّ قَالَ: نَعَمْ (رقم الحديث 1106)

صحيح البخاري

وَكَانَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ إِذَا كَانَ بِاللَّيْلِ سَارَ مَعَ عَائِشَةَ يَتَحَدَّثُ (رقم الحديث 5211)

وفي صحيح ابن حبان

عَنْ عُرْوَةَ، قَالَ: قُلْتُ لِعَائِشَةَ: يَا أُمَّ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ، أَيُّ شَيْءٍ كَانَ يَصْنَعُ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ إِذَا كَانَ عِنْدَكِ؟ قَالَتْ: «مَا يَفْعَلُ أَحَدُكُمْ فِي مِهْنَةِ أَهْلِهِ، يَخْصِفُ نَعْلَهُ، وَيَخِيطُ ثَوْبَهُ، وَيَرْقَعُ دَلْوَهُ» (1) . [5: 47] (5676)

[6]وفي صحيح مسلم

عَنْ أَبِي ذَرٍّ، أَنَّ نَاسًا مِنْ أَصْحَابِ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالُوا لِلنَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ، ذَهَبَ أَهْلُ الدُّثُورِ بِالْأُجُورِ، يُصَلُّونَ كَمَا نُصَلِّي، وَيَصُومُونَ كَمَا نَصُومُ، وَيَتَصَدَّقُونَ بِفُضُولِ أَمْوَالِهِمْ، قَالَ: ” أَوَلَيْسَ قَدْ جَعَلَ اللهُ لَكُمْ مَا تَصَّدَّقُونَ؟ إِنَّ بِكُلِّ تَسْبِيحَةٍ صَدَقَةً، وَكُلِّ تَكْبِيرَةٍ صَدَقَةً، وَكُلِّ تَحْمِيدَةٍ صَدَقَةً، وَكُلِّ تَهْلِيلَةٍ صَدَقَةً، وَأَمْرٌ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ صَدَقَةٌ، وَنَهْيٌ عَنْ مُنْكَرٍ صَدَقَةٌ، وَفِي بُضْعِ أَحَدِكُمْ صَدَقَةٌ، قَالُوا: يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ، أَيَأتِي أَحَدُنَا شَهْوَتَهُ وَيَكُونُ لَهُ فِيهَا أَجْرٌ؟ قَالَ: «أَرَأَيْتُمْ لَوْ وَضَعَهَا فِي حَرَامٍ أَكَانَ عَلَيْهِ فِيهَا وِزْرٌ؟ فَكَذَلِكَ إِذَا وَضَعَهَا فِي الْحَلَالِ كَانَ لَهُ أَجْرٌ» (رقم الحديث 1006)

[7]وفي صحيح البخاري

وَإِنَّكَ لَنْ تُنْفِقَ نَفَقَةً إِلَّا أُجِرْتَ عَلَيْهَا، حَتَّى اللُّقْمَةَ تَرْفَعُهَا إِلَى فِي امْرَأَتِكَ» (رقم الحديث 6733

[8]مسند أحمد

قَالَ: ابْنُ شِهَابٍ أَخْبَرَنِي عُرْوَةُ بْنُ الزُّبَيْرِ، أَنَّ عَائِشَةَ، قَالَتْ: وَاللهِ لَقَدْ رَأَيْتُ رَسُولَ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَقُومُ عَلَى بَابِ حُجْرَتِي وَالْحَبَشَةُ يَلْعَبُونَ فِي الْمَسْجِدِ، ” وَرَسُولُ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَسْتُرُنِي بِرِدَائِهِ لِكَيْ أَنْظُرَ إِلَى لَعِبِهِمْ، ثُمَّ يَقُومُ مِنْ أَجْلِي حَتَّى أَكُونَ أَنَا الَّتِي أَنْصَرِفُ، فَاقْدُرُوا قَدْرَ الْجَارِيَةِ الْحَدِيثَةِ السِّنِّ، الْحَرِيصَةِ عَلَى اللهْوِ ” (رقم الحديث 26358)

[9]وفي سنن إبن ماجه

عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، أَنَّهَا قَالَتْ: يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ مَا الشَّيْءُ الَّذِي لَا يَحِلُّ مَنْعُهُ؟ قَالَ: «الْمَاءُ، وَالْمِلْحُ، وَالنَّارُ» ، قَالَتْ: قُلْتُ: يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ هَذَا الْمَاءُ قَدْ عَرَفْنَاهُ، فَمَا بَالُ الْمِلْحِ وَالنَّارِ؟ قَالَ: «يَا حُمَيْرَاءُ مَنْ أَعْطَى نَارًا، فَكَأَنَّمَا تَصَدَّقَ بِجَمِيعِ مَا أَنْضَجَتْ تِلْكَ النَّارُ (رقم الحديث 2474)

وفي مصباح الزجاجة في شرح سنن إبن ماجه

يَا حميراء الخ قَالَ فِي النِّهَايَة الْحُمَيْرَاء تَصْغِير الْحَمْرَاء يُرِيد الْبَيْضَاء (ج 1 ص 178 قديمي كتب خانه)

قَالَ الْقُرْطُبِيُّ قِيلَ مَعْنَى حَمْرَاءِ الشِّدْقَيْنِ بَيْضَاءُ الشَّدْقَيْنِ وَالْعرب تطلق على الْأَبْيَض الْأَحْمَر كرهة اسْمِ الْبَيَاضِ لِكَوْنِهِ يُشْبِهُ الْبَرَصَ وَلِهَذَا كَانَ صلى الله عَلَيْهِ وَسلم يَقُول لعَائِشَة ياحميراء (ج 7 ص 140 دار المعرفة)

[10]وفي كتاب الفوائد

عَنْ أَنَسِ بْنِ مَالِكٍ، أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ لِعَائِشَةَ ذَاتَ يَوْمٍ: «مَا أَكْثَرَ بَيَاضَ عَيْنَيْكِ»(رقم الحديث 796)

[11]وفي مصنف إبن أبي شيبة

عَنِ ابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ قَالَ: ” إِنِّي أُحِبُّ أَنْ أَتَزَيَّنَ لِلْمَرْأَةِ، كَمَا أُحِبُّ أَنْ تَتَزَيَّنَ لِي الْمَرْأَةُ، لِأَنَّ اللَّهَ تَعَالَى يَقُولُ: {وَلَهُنَّ مِثْلُ الَّذِي عَلَيْهِنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ} [البقرة: 228] (رقم الحديث 19263)

[12]وفي سنن أبي داود

عَنْ أَنَسِ بْنِ مَالِكٍ، قَالَ: «كَانَتْ لِلنَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ سُكَّةٌ يَتَطَيَّبُ مِنْهَا» (رقم الحديث 4162)

[13]وفي صحيح مسلم

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: «إِنَّ مِنْ أَشَرِّ النَّاسِ عِنْدَ اللهِ مَنْزِلَةً يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ، الرَّجُلَ يُفْضِي إِلَى امْرَأَتِهِ، وَتُفْضِي إِلَيْهِ، ثُمَّ يَنْشُرُ سِرَّهَا» (رقم الحديث 1437)

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91 comments on “The Romantic Prophet – How to be romantic with your spouse

  1. Our holy Prophet was perfect if only our husbands could be the same and care and love us and we could love them as well

  2. This was so beautiful to read. Insha-Allah I will implement this into my upcoming marriage and I cannot wait for my fiancé to read this as well

    I had no idea that our Nabi (p.b.u.h) was so romantic and had such an amazing relationship with his wife

    Jazakallah for sharing this.

  3. ¤ ماشاءالله
    I thank my rabb 4 my husband. He does most of da above. I pray dat he reads salaah in musjid. Most of da tym he prays at home. Dats my only grouse. 
    الْحَمْدُ لِلَّهِ

  4. Wow so beautiful,hope al men can read dat n start taking action, in dat way there wont be so many divorces! Ameen

  5. If only spouses would follow the sunnat of Nabi صلى الله عليه وسلم we would have no divorces. I hope to find a husband whose similar to Nabi صلى الله عليه وسلم in every way possible. آمين.

  6. This is more than refreshing 2 have rede.really enjoy’d it.I’m marride 8 yrs and ĩ still L♥√ع my wife Ansaaf with all my heart and sole

  7. Masha اللَّهُ.may we all take a lesson from this,اللَّهُ guide us to be the best spouses to each other so that we may be a positive example to our children,insha اللَّهُ ,Ameen

  8. Alhumdulillah, I make shukr. My husband fulfills most of these attributes. May Allah Subhaanahu ta’ala reward him for trying 2 fulfill what is expected of him as a true Muslim husband. Our marriage is a partnership, not one sided. & I make shukr 2 Allah 4 that.

  9. If we all practice upon the sunnats of our beloved Nabi  صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ we will never go wrong. May Allah grant us all the ability & the strength to be on the straight part آمين

  10. Masha Allah such beauty,respect,happiness,love
    That our beloved prohet(saw)pbuh
    Has for his wife Y in the first
    Place before marriage show it our
    Husband so we should have the same
    Loving happy and peaceful relationship
    In our marriage but never the less we
    Can still make Dua to Allah and ask for
    This happiness we don’t need materialistic
    Things we just want them simple.

  11. MashAllah may the Almighty assist us all in our marriages and othe endevours. Surely islam and its sunnah is the most beautiful way of life.

  12. Very Impressive, ‎​ما شاء ا الله . I wish all the husbands could have time to read it too. And be good examples like what our Beloved Prophet (S.A.W) did in He’s Holly life time. ‎​​​جزاك الله خيرا .

    • dis was really lovable to read..not ly a husband wanna do al these..even a wife can do al these without expectation..thus evrythin wil be smooth nd cool to go ahead wt a romantic relation..insha allah i wil satisfy all my husband needs nd happiness..

  13. Mayاللَّه سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى grant all husbands 2 practice on da way of prophet Muhammed (S.A.W) آمِيْن يَارَبَّ الْعَالَمِينْ

  14. SuBhAnAlLaH If only d men (and Women) of 2day followed d SUNNAH Of OuR PRECIOUS NABIE (SAW) All Muslims will b Happy ND Getting Sawaab 2

  15. Alhamdulillah! What great advices! We can learn so much just by looking at the life of our Beloved Nabi (S.A.W). We are most fortunate to have Him as Our role model and guide. May we all use these advices to strengthen our marriages and uplift Deen,Ameen!

  16. ‎​ما شاء ا الله great reminder to all Husbands on this beautiful Duni’ya. ‎​الحمد لله that ‎​الله has blessed me with such a type of husband too. He does most of all the above mentioned. And mostly, ‎​ما شاء ا الله my husband is such a PIOUS man, he performs all he’s five daily Salah and he’s very loving to me too. May ‎​الله add more days of he’s life ‎​إنشاءالله .

  17. There are times I alwaz think just imagine how different life wud be with our bloved Nabi Kariem Muhammed (s.a.w)was here with the umaah,when I pray I alwaz seem 2think n find myself laying in the prophets lap n I feel so much at ease alhamdulillah I make dua all husbands follow Prophet Muhammed (s.a.w.) Sunnah ways alhamdulillahi rabbill aalameen lakh lakh shukar alhamdulillah to Allah (s.w.t.)

  18. Masha Allah,could u please send me something on how a women should treat a husband. I no of a sister who is arrogant n rude to her husband. I have on many ocassion tried to talk to her however she’s makes it look she’s alway ryt. I feel real sick being around this sister even though I love her so much and this is make me actually distance my self frm her. Please help me help this sister

  19. Jazakallahu khair,
    Keep your good work on,praying that Allah be with U &also give us the strength to help U through this JIHAD
    Thank you

  20. Alhamdulilla, just really a wake up call to both. I find that a lot of ladies say that if only our husbands could do the same, we are a part of this as women, and should also do whats expected of us,from Almighty Allah. Be on the sunnah, do our best to protect n safeguard each others interests. And many times we find ourselves only dressing up to go out, not really for the husband… But I’d also have to add that a lot of the things the Beloved Prophet(SAW) use to do, our Hubbies do not Practice,but then again do we as women? MaY Almighty Allah grant us all the opportunity of committing ourselves to the proper lifestyle of Nabi Muhammad(SAW) because we’ll definitely not only get better marriages, but a more fulfilled and successful life, Dunya, Qabr and Aagirah Ameen

  21. سُبْحَانَ اللّهِ …marshallah…we shud all tru to be like our beloved
    النَّبِي محمد صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ and his wives:)

  22. Awesum stuff. If couples could attempt some of the above this will result in much happier marriages and d word divorce will no longer exist.shukran

  23. الْحَمْدُ لِلَّهِ we cn do wit dat advise as it hlpful in every marrige.Y turn 2 western ways wnwe hv it all in our beautiful deen ISLAM سُبْحَانَ اللَّه

  24. Mash’Allah this increased me in my love for our beloved Prophet (saw). May Allah (swt) grant me and others the tawfiq to implement each and every one of these when Allah (swt) blesses me and others from his bounty a spouse. Ameen YaRaabilAlameen.

  25. This beautiful article brought tears to my eyes. My beloved husband already does so many of these deeds, which °̩ am to blind to see sometimes. May اَللَّه bless him infinitely. °̩ make دعاء that °̩ can be more understanding, patient, loving and kind to him and that اَللَّه showers his choicest blessings on our marraige till death do us part. إن شاء الله. آمــــــــــين

  26. Was sweet 2 read it while on my wifes lap,sad part of it all,those parts of us will never 4ee d resl meanin of islam,dats hw beautiful it is,understandin it is d gorgeous part of it all,JAZAKALLAH KHAIR.

  27. ما شاء الله if we could all live this way our marrages would be much more successful إنشاء الله we take heed of this.

  28. Salaam Dis story of our holy Prophet Muhammed (S.A.W) do u have it in urdu plz plz send it 2 me
    جـَــــزاكـُــــم الـــلّــه خـَـــــيرًا

  29. Masha Allah! How beautiful & perfect an example the Prophet s.a.w. and his wives are. May Allah instill the same love and respect in the hearts of all married couples of the ummah. Aameen.

  30. Beutifull story I would love to hear more stories like these about Prophet SAW any stories about any of the Prophets would be most welcome I would most appreciate it thank you very much assalamu alaikum ww Mamuna

  31. I’ve enjyd reading this article and to mention м̤̈ÿ̲ dearest husband is everytng to me as said above. ‎​الحمداللة

  32. Slms. What a beautiful article. Cos we as husbands forget the most important thing in our life, which is our wife. Jzklh I have learnt a lot from this article. Shukran.

  33. A beutifull piece of information and very interesting may Allah give all of tje mankind good hidayat and love between husband and wife Insaha Allah Ameen Summa Ameen

    Mamuna Shaikh

  34. The best advice to be given not only to newly weds but to all married couples who have slipped into married life as a routine where there is no fun or display of affection. May we all implement these examples in our lives. Insha Allah. Ameen

  35. Mashallah,what a nyce lesson 4 us 2 learn 4rom,may allah give us all da strength pratise on wat we hv read!ameen

  36. Jazak allah , 2 tell dis every muslim ,It must b read by al d men,hope al d men will follow our holy prophet (s.a.w). Even i have no idea dat He was so romantic, thanx anas to telling dis.

  37. We ignore dis little things not knowing dat it help make our marriage strong. May Allah gv us d ability 2 follow these sunnah of our prophet SAW.

  38. Alhamdu lillah that Allah Has guided us with the Holy Prophet’s actions. May Allah continue to guide us to follow the right path, and to be pleasing to our spouses. Amin. Jazakallah khairan. May Allah Reward you on this.

  39. MashAllah may the Almighty assist us all in our marriages and othe endevour.جـَــــزاكـُــــم الـــلّــه خـَـــــيرً

  40. Am advising my muslim brothers more especially those that are not yet married and those that are, to always put these teachings of prophet muhammad inplace when its comes to dealing with our beloved wifes.may Allah subhanahu wata’ala always give us strength to always stick to prophet muhammad’s teachings & sunnah ameen!

  41. Masha Allah; this s beautiful. May we be ablE to act upon it آميــــن. الْحَمْدُ لِلَّهِ

  42. My spouse and I practice about half of what the Prophet Muhammad(SAW) did.May Allah guide us in fulfilling the remaining half.

  43. Masha Allah! What a beautiful piece. My wife-to-be shared me the link. We need your prayers please. May Allah bless our marriage and every Islamic couple worldwide. Ameen. Jazakumullahu khair.

  44. This was touching keep it up ppl r very ignorant mashallah may allah reward u 4 looking out 4 us ameen tc slmz.I hv learnt alot

  45. Alhamdulillah,mashaAllah am so greatful on dis message.May Allah continue to uplift d prophetSalallahu alaihi wasallam.Am married 4 2yrs nw n alhamdulillahi I practice most of those things.Jazakallahu

  46. I had an interesting time readn d artcle &i frwrded it 2 my fiancee who printed it out &promises 2 adhere 2 dis ways by God’s grace..Insha-Allah we will implement this into our upcoming marriage,God bless you 4 sharing this!

  47. Masha Allah indeed our beloved nabi is perfect.
    Alhamdulillah,my huband is trying 2 fulfil his duty
    As good husband. May Allah give us d ability 2 do more.

  48. Alhamdulilah Robil Alamin, its like this article is purposely because of me be cause my husband does almost all the teaching of our Noble Prophet (SAW) but I don’t reciprocate because I always feel shy to show my love to my husband. I felt it immoral and not decent for a woman showing too much affection. Pls I want to change so that my home will be very lively and enjoyable. Help me rekindle my LOVE

  49. Oh Allah became me how our Prophet Sallalahu Aaihi wa Salam live his Romantic life.
    Oh Allah became me better for my wife n for 2nd wife too. AMEEN

  50. A nice piece. May Allah give abundant reward to the author and also give my husband to be the capability to always put a smile on my face and vice versa. Ameen.

  51. Aysha was young….for sure any man would b romantic….da author shud also display his romance vd orther wifes….for better understanding.

  52. A man like prophet Muhammad(SAW)can never be find again,the last of prophet and he is the best of prophet,and the perfect human being almighty Allah has ever made.well i wish to have a caring husband,but no man can ever be like the prophet.his wives are lucky.

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